Compassion Matters

Relationships

A Powerful Way to Improve Our Relationships

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on November 26, 2022

How insecurities affect our relationships and what we can do to have healthier dialogue.

How insecurities affect our relationships and what we can do to have healthier dialogue.

Self-Talk

Why We Underestimate Our Effect on Others

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on October 6, 2022

New research shows that people may not understand the impact that even their smallest acts of kindness can have on others.

New research shows that people may not understand the impact that even their smallest acts of kindness can have on others.

Gratitude

3 Simple Ways to Quickly Improve Your Mood

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on September 10, 2022

When I'm asked for an immediate method to get out of a bad mood, these are the three main things I advise.

When I'm asked for an immediate method to get out of a bad mood, these are the three main things I advise.

Relationships

How to Love Your Partner the Way They Want to Be Loved

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on August 27, 2022

Thinking about how we show love can be a powerful practice for keeping our feelings alive and well in a relationship.

Thinking about how we show love can be a powerful practice for keeping our feelings alive and well in a relationship.

Relationships

A Better Way for Couples to Connect

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on July 24, 2022

Collaborative communication can be a powerful tool for improving interpersonal relationships. Here, I break down what it entails and why it makes such a difference to couples.

Collaborative communication can be a powerful tool for improving interpersonal relationships. Here, I break down what it entails and why it makes such a difference to couples.

Health

What to Do When You Feel Paralyzed by the News

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on July 11, 2022

When outside forces determine major world events, it touches on our deepest and most human vulnerability. How do we cope with this?

When outside forces determine major world events, it touches on our deepest and most human vulnerability. How do we cope with this?

Trust

Why Is Honesty So Important in a Relationship?

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on July 5, 2022

Feeling comfortable enough to disclose something vulnerable or meaningful about ourselves to our partner is indicative of a relationship’s strength.

Feeling comfortable enough to disclose something vulnerable or meaningful about ourselves to our partner is indicative of a relationship’s strength.

Relationships

3 Reasons Why Someone Might Avoid Intimacy

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on June 25, 2022

The big question for many of us is why we start to pull away from people we like or situations that seem desirable.

The big question for many of us is why we start to pull away from people we like or situations that seem desirable.

Self-Talk

4 Ways to Get Your Partner to Hear You

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on June 8, 2022

These four principles have made the biggest difference when it comes to helping couples feel seen, heard, and closer to each other.

These four principles have made the biggest difference when it comes to helping couples feel seen, heard, and closer to each other.

Self-Talk

3 Questions That Could Change Your Relationship With Food

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on May 30, 2022

When it comes to changing how we feel about ourselves and think about the food we eat, asking ourselves these three questions can be a huge help.

When it comes to changing how we feel about ourselves and think about the food we eat, asking ourselves these three questions can be a huge help.

Anger

3 Things to Do the Minute You’re Overwhelmed With Anger

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on May 3, 2022

Here are three tips I give everyone, from couples to parents, to help them handle heated moments of frustration, annoyance, or outright rage.

Here are three tips I give everyone, from couples to parents, to help them handle heated moments of frustration, annoyance, or outright rage.

Anger

6 Tips for Dealing With Your Anger

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on April 29, 2022

Failing to face or accept our anger can lead to a series of maladaptations. Here's how to change your relationship to anger.

Failing to face or accept our anger can lead to a series of maladaptations. Here's how to change your relationship to anger.

Trauma

9 Tips to Help Free Yourself From Childhood Trauma

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on March 15, 2022

When trauma is unresolved, it can haunt you in many ways. Here are nine suggestions to help you resolve trauma that's impacting your life.

When trauma is unresolved, it can haunt you in many ways. Here are nine suggestions to help you resolve trauma that's impacting your life.

Attachment

Why Can’t You Move on From Your Relationship?

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on March 8, 2022

Many people get stuck in the pain of a breakup or repeatedly return to the same partner. If this pattern resonates with you, here's what to do.

Many people get stuck in the pain of a breakup or repeatedly return to the same partner. If this pattern resonates with you, here's what to do.

Embarrassment

How to Handle Feeling Wronged by Your Partner

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on February 15, 2022

If your relationship goal is to heal and move forward together, there are certain steps to take and avoid when seeking resolution.

If your relationship goal is to heal and move forward together, there are certain steps to take and avoid when seeking resolution.

Stress

Name It to Tame It: The Emotions Underlying Your Triggers

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on February 1, 2022

Why do certain words or interactions spark particularly strong emotions inside us? Getting to know our triggers can help us calm down and control our reactions.

Why do certain words or interactions spark particularly strong emotions inside us? Getting to know our triggers can help us calm down and control our reactions.

Narcissism

Why Is It So Hard to Leave a Narcissist?

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on January 19, 2022

With all of the challenges of being with a narcissist, why is it so hard to leave? Here are six reasons.

With all of the challenges of being with a narcissist, why is it so hard to leave? Here are six reasons.

Trauma

Making Sense of Your Covid Story

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on January 1, 2022

As much as we would like to move on or forget about the painful events of this pandemic, research suggests that we cannot resolve our trauma without creating a coherent narrative.

As much as we would like to move on or forget about the painful events of this pandemic, research suggests that we cannot resolve our trauma without creating a coherent narrative.

Motivation

The Key to Raising Independent, Capable Kids

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on December 31, 2021

Giving our kids manageable responsibilities and encouraging them to take steps rather than expecting them to accomplish huge feats is a powerful lesson to offer.

Giving our kids manageable responsibilities and encouraging them to take steps rather than expecting them to accomplish huge feats is a powerful lesson to offer.

Relationships

How to Let Your Loved Ones Be "Good Enough"

Lisa Firestone Ph.D. on December 2, 2021

By being less judgmental, we can find new ways to nurture a friendship and thrive in a relationship, both as an individual and as a pair.

By being less judgmental, we can find new ways to nurture a friendship and thrive in a relationship, both as an individual and as a pair.