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Therapy
Don’t Apologize to Your Therapist for Your Tears

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on April 19, 2024

Crying is a brave, healthy, and powerful act. A new study reveals that crying can sometimes be linked with fruitful therapy experiences.    

Crying is a brave, healthy, and powerful act. A new study reveals that crying can sometimes be linked with fruitful therapy experiences.    

Anger
A Nuance in Regulating Your Emotional World

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on December 29, 2023

If we want to understand anger better and how we respond to it, we might want to reflect on the upsides and downsides we attach to our feelings. 

If we want to understand anger better and how we respond to it, we might want to reflect on the upsides and downsides we attach to our feelings. 

Emotions
Another Possible Gift of Age: Less Emotion Overflow

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on November 27, 2023

When you consider how happy you are with your life, do you rely on how you’re feeling in the moment? Your answer may have to do with how old you are.

When you consider how happy you are with your life, do you rely on how you’re feeling in the moment? Your answer may have to do with how old you are.

Parenting
How Many Parents Ever Regret Having Kids?

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on October 30, 2023

A team of researchers highlighted past research that showed regret over having children isn’t rare, as 5-14% of parents have this feeling.

A team of researchers highlighted past research that showed regret over having children isn’t rare, as 5-14% of parents have this feeling.

Race and Ethnicity
What Couples Are Comfortable Talking About

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on September 30, 2023

In your interactions with your partner, try noticing when you’re more or less able to effectively engage, and consider what you’re talking about. It might provide useful insights.

In your interactions with your partner, try noticing when you’re more or less able to effectively engage, and consider what you’re talking about. It might provide useful insights.

Therapy
The Connection Between Past and Future Therapy

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on August 19, 2023

You often take your impressions from the past and carry them into the future. This is true in all sorts of domains, including therapy, new research shows.

You often take your impressions from the past and carry them into the future. This is true in all sorts of domains, including therapy, new research shows.

Relationships
The Power of Beliefs in Romantic Relationships

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on June 27, 2023

According to research, if you’re really content in your relationship, you’re also likely to say that your partner does a lot of good deeds on behalf of your relationship. But why?

According to research, if you’re really content in your relationship, you’re also likely to say that your partner does a lot of good deeds on behalf of your relationship. But why?

Relationships
How to Talk About Mistakes in a Relationship

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on April 27, 2023

Not all misdeeds are inevitable, but it’s a certainty that, generally speaking, an offense of some type or another will happen because we’re all human and everyone makes mistakes. 

Not all misdeeds are inevitable, but it’s a certainty that, generally speaking, an offense of some type or another will happen because we’re all human and everyone makes mistakes. 

Stress
Using Temporal Distancing to Cope With Stress

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on March 26, 2023

If someone asked how you cope with stress, what would you say? Would you imagine how you would react in the future to a nerve-wracking situation you’re dealing with right now?

If someone asked how you cope with stress, what would you say? Would you imagine how you would react in the future to a nerve-wracking situation you’re dealing with right now?

Relationships
The Beauty of "I-Sharing"

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on February 24, 2023

I’ll bet the notion that "sharing with others is worthwhile" isn’t news to you. But what if I said it’s beneficial to "i-share" with someone? 

I’ll bet the notion that "sharing with others is worthwhile" isn’t news to you. But what if I said it’s beneficial to "i-share" with someone? 

Emotions
How to Measure Emotional Self-Invalidation

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on November 12, 2022

Researchers created a measure to assess a concept that has received little attention in psychological research: emotional self-invalidation. 

Researchers created a measure to assess a concept that has received little attention in psychological research: emotional self-invalidation. 

Career
Overcoming a Hurdle to Saying "No"

Holly Parker, Ph.D. on October 30, 2022

Let’s be honest, it can be hard to set a boundary–really hard. A team of researchers explored an element behind why we find it arduous to say that healthy, vital, two-letter word.

Let’s be honest, it can be hard to set a boundary–really hard. A team of researchers explored an element behind why we find it arduous to say that healthy, vital, two-letter word.