The Attraction Doctor

Mating

How Nice Guys (and Women) Can Find Love

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on March 11, 2024

People with warm and agreeable personalities can be overlooked at times—but they can win in romantic relationships. too. Learn how here.

People with warm and agreeable personalities can be overlooked at times—but they can win in romantic relationships. too. Learn how here.

Body Language

How to Tell if Someone Is Interested in You

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on February 12, 2024

Research highlights the verbal and body language cues that signal whether someone is interested in you or not.

Research highlights the verbal and body language cues that signal whether someone is interested in you or not.

Charisma

The Science of Charisma for Romance, Work, and Everyday Life

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on December 18, 2023

What exactly makes someone charismatic? Research provides an answer and shows how you can become more charismatic in love, life, and work.

What exactly makes someone charismatic? Research provides an answer and shows how you can become more charismatic in love, life, and work.

Relationships

When Is "Being Yourself" a Good Dating and Mating Strategy?

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on October 23, 2023

"Just be yourself" is often a cliché in dating advice. Nevertheless, research suggests it is successful under certain conditions. Learn how authenticity can lead to long-term love.

"Just be yourself" is often a cliché in dating advice. Nevertheless, research suggests it is successful under certain conditions. Learn how authenticity can lead to long-term love.

Mating

Cuffing Season Tips: A Guide for Holiday Romance

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on September 29, 2023

Find love for the holidays (and perhaps beyond) with these persuasive tips for cuffing season success.

Find love for the holidays (and perhaps beyond) with these persuasive tips for cuffing season success.

Body Language

Body Language for Building Rapport and Connection

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on September 14, 2023

Classic research identified three factors necessary to build rapport, along with the nonverbal communication skills that create and maintain that connection.

Classic research identified three factors necessary to build rapport, along with the nonverbal communication skills that create and maintain that connection.

Relationships

4 Factors for Building Trust in Relationships

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on August 16, 2023

Most people want a trusting relationship but are often confused about how to build one. Now, research has simplified the process down to four important factors.

Most people want a trusting relationship but are often confused about how to build one. Now, research has simplified the process down to four important factors.

Motivation

Making Conversations Easier: Identifying Your Goals

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on June 29, 2023

Conversations can be difficult, leading to digressions and frustrations, instead of cooperation and satisfaction.

Conversations can be difficult, leading to digressions and frustrations, instead of cooperation and satisfaction.

Social Networking

The Benefits of Learning How to Talk to Strangers

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on June 27, 2023

Talking to strangers can be more beneficial than you might think. It can also be easier than you might imagine. Here's what the research has to say.

Talking to strangers can be more beneficial than you might think. It can also be easier than you might imagine. Here's what the research has to say.

Mating

How Our Romantic Feelings Change Over Time

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on March 30, 2023

Romantic feelings often change as a relationship grows. New research explains why—and how partners can use those changes to increase mutual attraction and compatibility over time.

Romantic feelings often change as a relationship grows. New research explains why—and how partners can use those changes to increase mutual attraction and compatibility over time.

Mating

How We Find the Right Partner

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on March 23, 2023

Learn how mate evaluation theory can improve your success with dating and relationships.

Learn how mate evaluation theory can improve your success with dating and relationships.

Flirting

3 Steps to Figure Out Why Someone Is Flirting With You

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on December 20, 2022

Have you ever wondered why someone is flirting with you? Do they like you? Do they just want sex? Are they buttering you up for a favor instead? Learn how to tell the difference.

Have you ever wondered why someone is flirting with you? Do they like you? Do they just want sex? Are they buttering you up for a favor instead? Learn how to tell the difference.

Mating

Why Women Choose Nice Guys or Bad Boys

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on December 12, 2022

Women's mating motivations can be a mystery to men—and to the women themselves. Learn what research has to say about their preferences for bad boys, nice guys, heroes, and losers.

Women's mating motivations can be a mystery to men—and to the women themselves. Learn what research has to say about their preferences for bad boys, nice guys, heroes, and losers.

Flirting

The Best Ways for Men and Women to Flirt

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on December 2, 2022

Have you ever tried to flirt, only to have your efforts fall flat? Find out which flirting techniques work best, for women and men, according to research.

Have you ever tried to flirt, only to have your efforts fall flat? Find out which flirting techniques work best, for women and men, according to research.

Mating

Dealbreakers That Ruin Passion and Connection

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on September 20, 2022

Some bad traits can wreck a relationship before it even gets started. Find out what they are and how to avoid them.

Some bad traits can wreck a relationship before it even gets started. Find out what they are and how to avoid them.

Relationships

4 Tips to Navigate Modern Romance

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on September 8, 2022

Love can be confusing and sometimes hurts, but it can still be one of life's great experiences if you learn how to do it well.

Love can be confusing and sometimes hurts, but it can still be one of life's great experiences if you learn how to do it well.

Forgiveness

How to Get Your Ex Back: Strategies for Reconciling

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on June 27, 2022

Some people successfully get back together with a former lover. How do they rekindle the romance? What approach do they use for reconciling?

Some people successfully get back together with a former lover. How do they rekindle the romance? What approach do they use for reconciling?

Ghosting

How to Tell if You're Being Ghosted

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on June 13, 2022

Why do people choose to cut off contact and "ghost" during dating interactions? How can you see it coming? What can you do about it? Research has the answers.

Why do people choose to cut off contact and "ghost" during dating interactions? How can you see it coming? What can you do about it? Research has the answers.

Friends

When Being Friends with Benefits Leads to Love, and When It Doesn't

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on March 24, 2022

Modern stories suggest that hookups and "Friends with Benefits" sex can lead to long-term love. Research often shows heartbreak instead.

Modern stories suggest that hookups and "Friends with Benefits" sex can lead to long-term love. Research often shows heartbreak instead.

Relationships

3 Tips from Science for Better Foreplay

Jeremy Nicholson M.S.W., Ph.D. on March 9, 2022

Research suggests some specific tips for where, how, and for how long to touch with your lover for better foreplay.

Research suggests some specific tips for where, how, and for how long to touch with your lover for better foreplay.